Matt:
In one of my work lives, was a VP in an 8(a) firm and a partner with 2 retired Naval officers.
Your best place to start would be the National SBA Office in DC.
We were lucky because a high school friend of mine was the director of the state office in Richmond, VA and then ran the National Office for some time.
This was many years ago, so the rules have probably changed some.
You'll need to apply for the disabled veteran status and get it approved.
Then you'll need a business plan that shows everything from going in the red to the black, including your salary.
Once you have the status and business plan approved, then you can apply for a loan.
Like any bank, you'll need collateral.
Good looks doesn't qualify, at least it didn't for us years ago.
The process is arduous, but can be accomplished.